When it’s time to move on, here’s how to do so with clarity and compassion.
Allison—who also asked to be identified by first name only, because the running community where she lives is tight-knit—began feeling uneasy not long after a new runner joined one of her typical training groups. At first, she thought they’d get along. But soon, the recent arrival began questioning Allison’s choices, including the number of rest days and races in her schedule.
For instance, if you feel like your running partner is always dominating the conversation, is it because you don’t have much to say? On the flip side, if you feel like they’re the boring one, is it because you never ask questions or leave space for their contributions? You might find a small shift on your part resolves the issue, she says.If you determine there’s an issue outside of your own actions, think through your desired outcome, Cauthen says.
Such accommodations can work out better for everyone, relieving you of resentments and allowing each runner some grace. Cauthen admits that—as a mom of four with a full-time job—she’s often the one bailing on a 5 a.m. run. Running with a group instead of planning to meet just one person means she isn’t leaving anyone high and dry.
Try not to let things fester, even if you don’t like confrontation. Holding back to prevent hard feelings can backfire. “We’re not mind readers,” Poole says. “Now you’ve probably hurt them more because you decided to wait so long,” or you unintentionally exploded.Instead, find a calm and neutral time and place to talk—say, at a coffee shop, not immediately before an early-morning run. Express your boundaries with warmth and strength, Stockdale says.
To psych yourself up, consider that you might actually be helping them. Most people want to be good running partners and friends, and hard conversations can lead to growth. If you don’t let them know their constant one-stepping or one-upping nature is annoying, they might not ever realize how their behavior affects others.
That’s true even if the person did something you can’t forgive, as in the case of Beth and the cheating roomate. “It stinks because I not only lost a good training and running partner but also lost someone who I considered a great friend,” she said. “Our families had vacationed together and our kids were friends. The husbands also became friends.”
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