I was with my husband for 19 years and have two lovely children. Our marriage deteriorated massively in the last 5 years
We had a mutual friend throughout our marriage, whose children played football on my son’s football team, and I went to high school with her too. In April time, she turned up at my house with a gift bag for my husband with crystals and incense sticks for my husband to ‘help his anxiety’ and throughout the last two years of our marriage, my husband often made sexually inappropriate jokes and comments about her.
I hate when he takes my children to her house! He took them there on New Year’s Eve and slept in bed with her whilst my kids shared a single mattress in the room next door. He thinks I’m just being jealous and bitter and her being ‘my friend’ shouldn’t hurt anymore than if she were a stranger. I’ve asked him not to, out of respect for me. And he just said he doesn’t respect me and he has parental responsibility too, so he will keep taking them to her house. And I need to ‘get over it’ and I have no say in his life.Hi Karlie. I'm so sorry that you are going through this and you are obviously so hurt. Sadly there is nothing you can do about your ex husband's relationship with your"friend".
Preserve the kids relationship with Dad despite the horrible behaviour, unless there is a safeguarding risk. The kids dont need more upheaval. Talk to him about his girlfriends relationship with the kids, its quite fast and kids take longer- Im blending my family and it all takes time. Maybe consider mediation to talk these things with someone impartial who can hold you both to account.